Invisibility

Do you ever feel like you have this magic power where people can’t see you? You are invisible, completely see-through, and no one really notices you. You are the tiny speck of paint on a blank canvas that once used to be filled with colour. You feel invisible.

This obviously can be a not so amazing magic power when you feel lonely and worthless. You feel like you have no one to talk to. You feel like no one is there to listen.  You feel like your invisible. Now there is no need to worry anymore because super Zoe is here to save you from the curse of invisibility.

Third-wheeling, losing a close friend or not having that special connection with someone can make you feel invisible but don’t sit there and mope about it, do something.

You may not have that special connection with someone and it can make you feel upset but an amazing and very good advice giver (you know who you are CG) told me to become my own person and become independent. It’s quite hard to do but trust me once you have had a little taste of it, you can go back to being a sheep that follows everyone else.

 If you become independent, confident in yourself and an amazingly kind person, people will be attracted to you. You will be surrounded with people who are happy, confident and the sweetest human beings you will ever meet. You will find yourself having the best times with the best people.

If someone does the old exclusion game to you, build a bridge and get over it. Remember you are independent and confident. You don’t need people like that in your life. Don’t follow what everyone else is doing. If everyone is doing/wearing the next big thing, don’t follow. Just be YOU!! And I can’t stress this enough. If you aren’t YOU, you will never be the best person you can be.  

So from this blog, please take away this.

1. Be independent. Don’t worry if you don’t have a special connection with someone. A special person will come into your life and change that. (guy or girl)
2. Be confident. Believe in yourself.
3. Be YOU!!!! Be truthful to who you are. Be the best person you can be.
4. Do all this and your blank canvas will be filled with every colour you can think of.

Have pride in yourself

I see a lot of people unhappy with themselves and I used to be one of those people. I used to let other people’s opinions get to me and I was terrifyed of judgement. I didn’t believe in myself and I let my insercurities bring me down.

I have overcome that. I embrace my imperfections. I don’t care about what people say about me (the bad obviously). I am finally happy with myself at a young age. It took a lot of convincing from myself and sometimes others but it all paid off.

For the people who sound like the first unhappy Zoe, please listen closely.

People are always going to judge you, it’s a part of life but what they say should never influence how you feel about yourself because you are a special and beautiful person and you should give yourself credit for that. Seriously all you have to do is stop overthinking things. Overthinking kills your happiness. Forget about what people say because nothing they do is because of you. They have their insercurities too and that kills self esteem. What matters is how you see yourself not how others see you. Believe in yourself and try not to take things personally (a big mistake I made).

Now I need you to agree to well four agreements.

Agreement 1

Be impeccable with your word and say only what you mean. Speak out of truth, love and intergrity. Avoid speaking againest yourself and to gossip about others. Hard I know.

Agreement 2

Don’t take anything personally (this also helps you get rid of the title of the oversensitive one). Nothing others do should affect you. When your immune to others opinions and actions, you won’t be the victim.

Agreement 3

Don’t make assumptions. One of the most important rules. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstanding, sadness and drama. As confronting as it is, this agreement can literally transform your life.

Agreement 4

Always do your best and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret. Your best will change from moment to moment like when you are healthy opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best.

These four agreements are easier said than done but they will help you become happy. So instead of letting other’s opinion hurt you, embrace your imperfections and your mistakes.

Fall in love with yourself and everything will fall into place.

Until next time

Zoe xxx